You are no longer confused between what you need and what you do not need. All you do is make a list of what you need the most and pursue them diligently and put everything that you do not need in trash.
You decide whether you are satisfied by the way you live, whether you are happy with what you have become and how your college days have been. You decide to step out and do things that define you and are made for you.
You accept the reality that parents are no super beings. They are just like us.